Street Training: Because, You Know… SAFETY.

Roads are DANGEROUS, yo.

Over a million dogs are killed by cars in the U.S. each year, and cars are also one of the leading causes of death in children, with thousands being struck each year.

That’s why I always, always recommend street training your children and puppies.

I’m always surprised by how many people people DON’T street train.

Freedom is beautiful... except where it could end with a SPLAT

Freedom is beautiful… except where it could end with a SPLAT

Oh, I’m pretty sure every sane parent tells their kid not to run into the road, but I don’t think the rules are consistent, because they still seem to do it.

I see both dogs and small children joyously straying into the road on walks, while owners/parents panic (or don’t, which seems even stranger to me).

It’s worth the effort, trust me.

How To Street Train Your Puppy Toddler

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Coming When Called

A solid recall is one of the most basic and yet also one of the most vital aspects of obedience.

If your dog doesn’t come when you call, then chances are he won’t do much else you tell him to do, either. A dog who doesn’t come when called is saying “there are more interesting things out here than you” and “I don’t think you mean that”. If your dog isn’t thrilled to approach you and doesn’t assume you mean what you say, you’re doomed.

I think it goes double for children.

A strong recall is not only a good sign of how much control you really have over your beloved dependent, but it is also incredibly vital to safety.

You might be calling your dog because he has decided to chase a bear. You might be calling your toddler for the same reason.

And while you’re trying to convince your puppy/toddler that the bear is NOT, in fact, Winnie The Pooh, you’re going to be desperately wishing you had worked on a solid recall.

So, now’s the time.

Three things drive a good recall – a strong history of reward, a lot of encouragement, and giving the impression that there is no choice in the matter.

How To Train Your Puppy Toddler To Come When Called

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3 Reasons To Raise an Obedient Toddler

“Obedience” sounds awful in the context of parenting, doesn’t it?

At least, to the North American ear it does. We want our kids to be free to discover themselves, to think for themselves, to feel loved and valued.

“Obedience” makes us think of stern 1950s style fathers holding belts in a threatening manner, or Von Trapp family style repression of all things joyful.

You vill obey me and you vill be miserable about it!

You vill obey me and you vill be miserable about it!

But in dog training, obedience is pretty standard. Everyone wants an obedient dog.

In fact, stern dog trainers like Cesar Millan have built multi-million dollar businesses around teaching people to physically and mentally dominate their dogs.

I have always wondered why people seem to value letting their kids act like drunken yahoos, but then worship a dog trainer who often kicks, strangles and otherwise bullies dogs into submission.

Be assured that when I talk about obedience, I’m not thinking of applying any of that crap to our children.

I wouldn’t even apply that to a dog.

Obedience is not about cowing the spirit out of someone.

It isn’t about using special choking equipment or punishing them for simply doing what comes naturally to them.

Reasonable dog trainers mean this when they talk of obedience training:

Von trapp better

Much happier. Still obedient.

  • Setting high but reasonable expectations.
  • Maintaining firm but loving boundaries.
  • Rewarding appropriate behaviour.
  • NOT rewarding inappropriate behaviour.

Not only can obedience be achieved without any whistles, forced marching, or grim frowns, but it should be achieved if you want your toddler to become a tolerable human being who wins the Nobel Prize and can afford a really swanky old age home for you some day.

Three Reasons Why Obedience Can Change Your Puppy’s Toddler’s Life

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Weaning Off Treats

Treats have an important place in training.

Not only do they give some extra motivation when you’re teaching a difficult new skill,  but they provide instant gratification, a way of really marking a success as something to celebrate and be happy about.

But once the skill is acquired, treats are no longer motivation.

They are bribes.

Many parents have used candy treats during potty training. But as an adult, if your mother is still popping by your house to give you a brownie whenever you successfully manage to avoid wetting yourself, then I have to take my hat off to you and ask you what your secret is.

(Besides, after giving birth to a child, wetting oneself seems to be less a matter of training and more a matter of physical inability to hold one’s urine.I have wet myself more times in the last three years than I did have since I was a small child. Bright side: Recently my son caught me changing my pants and reassured me, “it’s okay, Mommy. It was a accident. Oh well. That happens.”)

The key is to reduce the rewards slowly and gradually, as the puppy or child gets in the habit of performing the new skill.

So, at first, you give your puppy a big treat and lots of praise whenever it lies down on command.

However, once your puppy can do it reliably every time, it’s time to get rid of those treats. If you don’t, you’re going to turn into one of those people who needs to offer a treat to their full grown dog just to convince it to obey a basic command that it has known since puppyhood.

*head shake*

…You aren’t one of those people, are you?

If so, you really need this post.

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How to Potty Train Your Toddler the Puppy Way – Part 4

Bowel movements are always harder.

…. allow me to rephrase.

Bowel movements are always MORE DIFFICULT.

People usually tell me that their dog has the urination thing pegged but still leaves little brown presents in surprising places.

That’s because they happen less often. A normal dog might defecate only once or twice a day, while a it will happily squat or lift its leg every two feet, long after the bladder has been emptied.

It’s the same with toddlers.

Our son was completely potty trained pee-wise within a couple of days.

(At least, while awake. Nearly a year later, he still tends to pee in his sleep, which is different from dogs, who never pee in their sleep at all unless they have some kind of hormonal imbalance.)

But poops were a different story.

Since they were less frequent, he had a much weaker reward history when it came to doing them on the potty. He also tended to do most of his bowel movements at daycare, where they insisted on pull-ups. (I will explain my hatred of the pull up as a training tool in a different post, as this post isn’t big enough to contain ALL THE HATRED.)

There was also a fairly traumatic incident where he had an accident in his stupid pull up and it went all over the floor and the young helper was horrified and I think they over-corrected him for it.

Over correction is a problem.

When someone terrifies the living bejeebers out of a dog, we call that over-correction. It’s the sign that you’ve gone too far. The most notable symptom is that the dog shows fear of the whole training process, which should never happen.

When your puppy or child has an accident, you want to interrupt it, redirect the the appropriate location, and then encourage a success. You don’t want to make them think that they have just utterly failed at life.

But when my son had a breakdown over a poop accident the next weekend, I suspected that this is exactly what had happened at his daycare.

Your puppy should not cringe with horror after having an accident, and your child should not weep “Waaaah! My pooped! NO POOP DOWN DOWN!” after an accident.

In this situation, simply and calmly redirect to the correct location and look for the slightest sign of success to try and build their confidence of the whole process.

You need to build up a strong motivation to overcome the fear of failure.

So we took a trip to the dollar store. We bought a small zoo of plastic animals of questionable quality. We placed them in a glass vase on a high shelf.

Those were POOPING TOYS.

A bowel movement in the underwear was OKAY, but would not result in a toy. On the other hand, a poop in the potty, well… that would be amazing.

There were no more poop accidents after that.

Even after the toys ran out.

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How to Potty Train Your Toddler the Puppy Way Part 3

My hesitancy over potty training my toddler melted away once I realized that I could apply my knowledge of puppy training to him.

The next long weekend, I booked no dog training appointments, and my husband and I shacked up in the house with a supply of Smarties (a common candy in Canada, similar to M&Ms), stickers, and hope.

Then we followed the basic rules for potty training your puppy, modified in small ways to suit a human being instead of a canine.

Rule 1

Follow the puppy around constantly. CONSTANTLY. DO NOTHING ELSE. Whenever the puppy starts to make a “mistake” in the house, immediately interrupt the behaviour by making a startling noise and picking her up.

Well, that wouldn’t do much good since our child, unlike a puppy, was wearing a diaper. The obvious solution was to strip him naked so we could see what was going on down there and catch him in the act as needed.

So we stripped him naked and watched him closely. He was standing around innocently playing with his blocks when I heard a watery little sound. Sure enough, he was urinating on his blocks.

“Uh oh! Nope! Stop!” I cried, and grabbed him by the shoulders.

Rule 2

Take the puppy to the correct location and wait and pray and sacrifice a goat in the hope that she will finish what he started.

I rushed my son to his potty, urine still a-flying from his penis.

“Pee goes in here!” I said, and the couple teaspoons-worth fell in the designated location.

Then we threw a party.

Rule 3

Whenever the puppy does happen to urinate or defecate in the right place, throw a big party. Like, Ed McMahon just showed up at your house kind of a party. Give multiple kinds of rewards – extra special treats that he never gets at any other time, AND lots of verbal praise AND petting AND a play session.smarties

I usually use cut-up hot dogs for potty training, but our human puppy found that Smarties were more motivating. This might vary from child to child.

Our son had never had chocolate before, so he thought this was a GREAT idea.

But candy wasn’t enough. He ALSO got a sticker to put on a potty chart (which was basically a piece of bristol board hung on the door for the purpose of receiving stickers). There was also a dance. And a high five. And a hug.

Since bowel movements were less common, I allocated double-reward status to those, on the recommendation of some experienced acquaintances. TWO candies and TWO stickers!

We also promised that if he managed to get ten stickers on his chart, he earned a very special reward: UNDERWEAR.

Rule 4

Give the puppy lots of opportunity for success by leading her to the right spot on a regular basis, especially after he has eaten or drank or played or sneezed or… well, you get the idea. Do it a lot.

We lead him to the potty regularly, between each activity. And if he wanted to read a book? Why he could do so on the potty and only on the potty. This Plastic God was Lord of All Good Things, and required regular visits.

Success Starts Small

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That first accident on his blocks was the one and only one he had in the house. He earned his underwear (NOT Pull Up diapers, because they wouldn’t show off accidents as clearly. You MUST catch accidents every time!) by the second day and pranced about happily in them.

The first time we tried leaving the house and taking a short walk around the block he wet himself. But the good news was that he recognized it immediately, thanks to the new underwear. So the mistake was caught in the act, we ran back inside, and he managed to make a bit more in the potty.

The next day, we tried a trip to the grocery store. I put him on the potty just before we went out the door, drove like a madwoman to the store, and then carried him into the grocery store and DIRECTLY into the bathroom. He was informed that a pee in the grocery store potty would result in TWO STICKERS and he complied very willingly. A quick trip around the store, a final visit to the potty, and a race home resulted in a successful accident-free trip.

Potty Training was complete.

Well, with the exception of bowel movements…

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How To Potty Train Your Toddler The Puppy Way – Part 2

I kept putting off potty training my son because I was afraid of failure. I had never done this before, and apparently, neither had my mother. Since I’m a first wife, my husband hadn’t either.

Then a dog training session changed all that.

Now, when I get called in for puppy training, it’s usually for things like eating shoes, walking on leash, basic obedience. Most families have already been doing the potty thing for a week or two and it’s mostly under control when I get there. I might make a few suggestions to “tweak” things, and that’s it.

But this one was different.

The poor guy, a big twenty something guy with the cutest little French Bulldog puppy you could ever hope to meet, was in a breakdown over his puppy. He was sure that he was a terrible puppy daddy and seriously considering returning the puppy to the breeder because he just wasn’t good enough for this small furry baby.

So I spent two hours there taking him through the potty training process, step by step, with lots of praise and encouragement and assurance.

(He kept the puppy and it turned out very well)

I came home asking myself, “why can’t I apply those same steps to my son?”

After all, the steps I had carefully outlined shared a lot of similarities with the advice in my potty training books:

How To Potty Train A Puppy

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  • Follow the puppy around constantly. CONSTANTLY. DO NOTHING ELSE. (If anyone ever told you that raising a puppy is easy, they were wrong and possibly drunk).
  • Whenever the puppy starts to make a “mistake” in the house, immediately interrupt the behaviour by making a startling noise and picking her up.
  • Take the puppy to the correct location and wait and pray and sacrifice a goat in the hope that she will finish what he started.
  • Whenever the puppy does happen to urinate or defecate in the right place, throw a big party. Like, Ed McMahon just showed up at your house kind of a party. Give multiple kinds of rewards – extra special treats that he never gets at any other time, AND lots of verbal praise AND petting AND a play session.
  • Give the puppy lots of opportunity for success by leading her to the right spot on a regular basis, especially after he has eaten or drank or played or sneezed or… well, you get the idea. Do it a lot.

And that’s it. If you do it right, they learn very fast.

I knew that. And that meant that I totally knew how to potty train my kid.

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